Tuesday, May 25, 2010

thoughts from me!

Why are there times that I feel like so many people that I know have someone except for me? It raises questions to me that I ask myself like am I worth it? don't I deserve to be happy? It's weird, how being picked on when I was younger for only having one eye and now even when I'm older (25) it still affects me. People notice I don't have the confidence. Even though I try to show confidence people somehow notice. Even if I don't recognize that I don't have confidence. I don't know how to gain the confidence. I guess its because I've never had the social interaction really in my life that other people have had or haven't experienced things that others have had. I'm hoping loosing more weight will make me more attractive and desirable. On the weight loss front I am down about another 4 pounds in the 253-254 area.

15 comments:

  1. first of all Andy.. super congrats on the weight loss front.. Now listen UP!!!.. you are not alone.. you have this little band community here. And we will cheer you on... As far as confidence.. I don't have a magic potion to give you.. but I can tell you confidence is something that people perceive and reflect back on to you. And don't believer for a minute that your looks translate to confidence (unless of course you are planning on being a GQ model or something, then you are on your own)

    You must learn to love your self first.. before you can expect to be exploding with confidence.

    Love of self creates confidence.

    So here is what I might recommend.. create an ANDY PLAN.. that's right.
    Identify some areas that you are going to invest in yourself.

    Physical Fitness - What's the Plan
    Intellectual Fitness - What new thing(s) do you want to learn
    Social Fitness - Go out there and join a group, find something you like, the arts, sports, nature.. there are a ton of groups or clubs you can joing or go to meetings. TRY SOMETHING NEW and stretch your horizon.
    Spiritual Fitness - no matter what your beliefs, get in touch with your soul, plenty of books, groups, etc.

    Try it.. and let me know how it works.

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  2. Well, I had to join your journey as Barbara told us too! LOL. Good luck-you can find lots of help here in blogland. I'm at http://rollercoasterdieting.blogspot.com/ if you need anything.

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  3. Hi Andy. I'm your new follower Gilly! Barbara sent me! Somehow I have a feeling you're going to get a bunch of new followers today...and all of us have lots of advice to give! Nice to meetcha!

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  4. Barbara sent me too! Here's a link to my blog: http://amandakiska.blogspot.com

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  5. Hello Andy,

    I was sent by the lovely Barbara too! You're doing fantastically well. You're not alone, we're all here to support you.

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  6. I meant to add that I didn't meet my husband until I was 27 and I was on my own pretty much until then. Its hard but its worth waiting for the right one!

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  7. I'm sorry you feel alone. I definitely think that losing weight will increase your self-confidence which will make you feel more comfortable in social situations. Unfortunately what we feel on the inside shows on the outside, even when we try our best not to let it. I've definitely let my weight change the person that I am and I hate that.

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  8. Hi Andy - I'm here per the awesome Barbara's orders. Congrats on the weight loss! I was banded around the same time last year - it's amazing it's almost a year. I think most of us have self confidence issues and they are harder to overcome than the weight, but hopefully it improve as you get to know yourself better.

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  9. Hey, Andy! I started reading your blog after reading Barbara's. I was banded March 24, 2010. You are doing really well on the weight loss front! Keep it up! Your confidence is going to get better with every pound lost. Try and stay positive and don't focus on the negative. I PROMISE there is a wonderful lady (or 2 or 3!) out there just for you!

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  10. I'm here because of Barbara, too, but I'm glad I came--wow, you're quite an example--you're doing the exercise thing and the weight loss thing--way to go!

    Barbara gave you some awesome really advice.

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  11. Hey Andy! The only wisdom I have to share about confidence is that it's all relative and it's something you just need to tap into...think back to kindergarten and the things you wish you could tell your kindergarten self then...now, apply that today like you're an old man right now...trust me, it's already in you, you just have to believe it...I know, easier said then done, but I'm sure the things you would tell your kindergarten self wouldn't be that hard for you to do now...just trust me that the more you learn to take chances and be your real self, the more your confidence will show. So glad I found you and can't wait to read more! -BG

    I'm here:
    http://bandgroupiethesweetspot.blogspot.com/

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  12. New follower Cindylew Who here...why...because Barb said so.
    I was banded 4/26/10 and I'm happy to join your journey.

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  13. Wow Andy.. can you feel the love and support here. So don't ever let it be said that you don't have a whole lot of women interested in YOU.. You hang in there and give us gals an update.. we love ya!!

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  14. Hi Andy...Barbara sent me. Ease up on yourself,,,,I think we all expect too much of ourselves which leaves us feeling dissapointed. We are here for you

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  15. I'm with everyone above! Lots of folks who have weight issues have confidence issues that are folded in with the weight. As you continue your successes, I believe your confidence will grow. I know it doesn't seem like it, but you are actually very young and very lucky to be doing this right now! Your entire life is ahead of you and you will find your happiness. Keep up the great work!!

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